Last week, one of my patients/clients/customers (whatever you want to call them) deposited into my bank account some money by Zelle. But the amount didn't make sense. It seemed like too much, and I wanted to understand for what (how many sessions; and I didn't remember how much I charge her -- what's her discount) she was paying me. So I sent her a text message. (Note to Self: You Know You Hate Text Messaging, So Don't Use It!) That was last week, and I never heard back. Nothing.
Yesterday, I got into a jam. Something was going way over time, and my appointment with this same patient was coming up very soon, so I (stupidly) sent her another text message, to ask her if we could delay by an hour. (E-mail takes longer and is unreliable, and I was on the phone with the other thing, so I couldn't call her.) She didn't reply, but the logjam on the earlier disaster broke, and I didn't need the delay after all. I sent yet another text message to say we were back on our original schedule. I didn't hear back, but I no longer needed to.
Except she did not call (it's all virtual now) on time for her session, and I no longer knew what was going on. (Except for the very disorganized and unreliable ones, I do not call patients to tell them they have an appointment, or to ask them why they're not there. I'm their psychiatrist, not their parent.) The exception I have made was when I had an office outside my home (which I no longer do), and I was there only for them, and if they were late, or not coming (but didn't call to tell me that), then I was sitting around wasting time that I needed to spend somewhere else doing something else. So then, I would call. Am I still expecting them soon, or can I leave?
I did finally hear from this patient, five minutes after our appointment time was over. She would get back to me about the amount of the payment, she had been working outside (in Georgia) and lost track of time -- forgot about the appointment -- and had changed her phone number, but never told me about this. So I was sending text messages to nowhere.
Anyway, why am I telling you this stupid story?
I've said this in an earlier post, and I'm going to repeat it: during the last week of qualifying for candidacy for the Commission, I sent Judi Hamelburg an e-mail. I said I wanted to talk to her about something, and I gave her my phone number, which I'm pretty sure she already has anyway. I did not hear back. So, if I couldn't get a sense from her that she would make a good Commissioner, which was what I wanted her to reassure me she would, or at least could, then I was going to run. We needed Tudor out, and I just wanted to know we could get a functional replacement. If that was Judi, great. It saves me time and trouble. If not, then I have to step up. But no; no word from Judi. So I completed the process, and I ran.
Several weeks later, the idea of using this blog for an online Meet the Candidates event struck me. It wouldn't be great, but it was as good as it was going to be. I reached out to all the other candidates. Mac and Art were all in. I got nothing back from the William boys, but I wasn't surprised. I was, however, surprised that I got nothing back, for a while, from Judi. The "event" started, and then, I heard from Judi. She wrote to me privately to say she works ("Some of us work" was how she put it), and she's too busy to be checking blog posts (and responding to her neighbors). She then made one response, and she dropped out. I should say that I corrected Judi. I told her that it's not "some of us" who work. It's all of us who work. And I said it's not my job to tell her how to deal with her neighbors, but I suggested she either do the best she can, or enter a comment that she's too busy, and can't find the time to answer questions.
A few days ago, after the election, I wrote to all the "new" Commissioners -- as you know from the "Note To Self..." post -- and I asked all of them to consider giving careful and special attention to the medians. I probably didn't expect a response from Ginny or Dan, who are disengaged anyway. I got a response from Mac. Nothing from Art, from whom I expected some sort of response. And nothing from Judi. She doesn't happen to like me? Fine. I wrote to her about my Village, our Village, her Village. And she's now a Commissioner. I want Judi to "rise to the occasion," as someone else put it. I don't want strike three. We've had a number of Commissioners who can't be bothered to respond to their neighbors/constituents. It's not good.
Last night, we had two Commission meetings. One was to hire a manager, who will work with Judi, and one of whose bosses Judi will be, and the other was to address a variance request. It was denied, sent back for reworking, and it will come back, to the Commission of which Judi will be a member. Judi was absent from both meetings.
We need Judi. She needs to leave whatever orbit she's in, and get down here. She has to respond to her neighbors. She needs to show up. We need her to make herself adaptive as a functioning part of a Commission. She has to be a cog in a wheel now. And if all of that doesn't happen, then we're back to spinning our wheels, and gradually continuing the decline we've been on for four years.
If you "know Judi" -- if you're a friend of hers -- please talk to her. Reel her in. Point her in this direction. We really do need her.
